More Concerns

Oldest Step-daughter has spent yet another week twisting off and I am more concerned than ever. In spite of all her faults, she has always insisted that she didn't drink alcohol and didn't like people who did. However, this weekend has shown the exact opposite. She spent the week in the little town she graduated from one year ago and it appears all she did was party with old friends. I was told she came home so drunk Friday night that her friend's husband had to carry her to bed.

I don't understand where the changes have come from exactly, but I feel it has something to do with the boyfriend she had this past year. He has some really bad habits that we have heard about and as we predicted, became physically abusive to her sometime last week. I don't know the whole story, but supposedly there are split up again. I hope that is for good! Maybe she is rebelling against all forms of responsibility right now and this is just another way to show us she has a mind of her own! Boy do we know it.

I also have an issue with the ex teaching the girls to think this type of behavior is okay. A couple of weeks ago, the youngest daughter loaded some pics off her camera onto our computer. She was showing me the pictures and I saw one that concerned me. I said, "that looks like a bar". She said, "yeah, but we were with mom". Oh! I guess that makes it alright then! I have also seen pics in the past from the lake where the girls were drinking with their mom. That was over a year ago. Behaviors are learned and I wonder why parents would want to teach bad behaviors instead of good ones?

So it seems to me that "K" is really out of control with no end in sight. I am worried what will be her wake-up call. What will it take for her to realize she must take care of her self, her responsibilities and discontinue the self destruction? PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!